It is that time of year again - some welcome it and others dread it but personally I love the New Year.  I love to look back and appreciate all that I have accomplished and experienced the year before.  It is also a great time to reflect on how the year was spent and what I could do differently this time around. 

One thing that continues to stand out is this idea that we have become obsessed with being busy.  Not truly busy in terms of having absolutely no free time to do anything, not the kind of busy involved with working two jobs to keep a roof over our head and food on the table, but the idea of being busy - better termed “busyness”. 

Chances are, the last conversation you had with someone involved them telling you just how busy they were. They probably even seemed stressed and overwhelmed with their current “to-do list”, but ironically were somehow even proud and almost expecting a high five. 

We have somehow managed to create all this busyness ourselves, and I am for sure guilty of this; ask yourself if you spend most of your days operating at a hurried pace just checking things off lists without really being present to what you were actually doing?  It is like we have put being busy on a pedestal and frown upon those who don’t seem “busy” enough. 

We are clearly confused about what busy means and foolishly begun to use it interchangeably with successful.  We constantly overbook ourselves, and worse, over schedule our poor children and for what reason exactly?  For added stress, less sleep and lack of quality time spent with loved ones all in a quest to be awarded some mythical honor of being able to do it all.  

Thanks to social media we live in a time where we are more aware than ever of what everyone is doing, but that does not and should never constitute what we “should” be doing.  Only we can decide what is most important to us and what we need.

Make a conscious effort to be more present and mindful of your time, and more importantly whom you choose to spend it with.  For starters, I recommend sitting down and looking at your schedule, ask yourself what is most important to you and what you want to accomplish with your time.  Then, specifically sort out your “have to” from your “want to”.   Once you schedule in your “have to” and you still have free time open then by all means pull from your “want to” list, but be honest with your time and remember there is no award for doing more.

Next try to be more present and mindful while you complete all of your tasks for the day.  For example, if you set aside 1 hour everyday for your workout then be 100% present and try not to deviate from it.  Use that time to be fully engaged in your workout, focus on just that and nothing else. You would be amazed at how much more productive your workouts will be. 

The same goes for your meals - if you sit down for a meal, resist the urge to do anything else while you eat.  I know it is hard not to be sidetracked with all of those devices around you, but really enjoy your meal and more importantly the company around you. 

You will find that the more present you become with all of your activities, even those that seem mundane in nature, you will begin to feel so much more fulfilled.

I hope this encourages you to truly examine your time and how you are choosing to spend it.   I, for one, am definitely done wasting my time and energy on trivial things.  I would much rather spend it focusing on fewer things that matter most, even if that means I am not “Superwoman”.